Your Body Knows Before You Do

Week 7 — Dark Feminine Energy

Week 5, we woke HER up
Last week, we gave HER permission
This week, we know our body remembers before our mind does

Here we go. 🖤

Your Body Has Been Paying Attention This Whole Time

While you were busy being responsible…
Your body was keeping score.

It noticed:

• What drained you

• What softened you

• What made you feel alive

• What shut you down

Even when you ignored the signals.
Even when you pushed through.
Even when you told yourself it didn’t matter.

Your body didn’t stop speaking.

You just stopped listening.

This Is Where Dark Feminine Energy Actually Lives

Not in your thoughts.
Not in affirmations.
Not in motivation.

Dark feminine energy lives in sensation.

In the way your shoulders drop when you finally exhale.
In the way your hips sway when you’re not being watched.
In the way certain music makes you feel something you forgot you missed.

She doesn’t announce herself.

She moves.

Why So Many Women Feel Disconnected From Their Bodies

Most women were taught to treat their bodies like projects.

Fix it.
Manage it.
Improve it.
Push it harder.

Especially after motherhood, your body becomes something you use…
not something you inhabit.

So it makes sense that desire feels distant.

You can’t feel sensual in a body you’re constantly correcting.

Reconnection Isn’t About Loving Your Body

This might surprise you.

Reconnecting with your body isn’t about body positivity.
It’s about body presence.

It’s about noticing:

• When something feels like a yes

• When something feels like a no

• When you’re tense

• When you’re open

The dark feminine awakens when you stop asking,
“How do I look?”

And start asking,
“How does this feel?”

Your Body Speaks in Whispers, Not Words

This is why so many women miss the moment.

The signals are subtle:

• A craving for touch

• A desire to slow down

• A pull toward beauty, texture, warmth

• A restlessness that isn’t mental

Your body doesn’t shout.

She invites.

And when she’s been ignored for a long time, she waits patiently.

Until one day… you finally hear her.

This Is Where Sensuality Begins Again

Not in lingerie.
Not in mirrors.
Not in performance.

Sensuality begins the moment you let yourself feel inside your body again.

When you:

• Move without watching yourself

• Rest without guilt

• Touch your own skin with intention

• Let pleasure be quiet and personal

This is dark feminine energy in its most grounded form.

Not seductive for others.
Magnetic for yourself.

If This Is Stirring Something Physical, Not Logical

That’s the point.

Your body remembers what your mind forgot.

And the more you listen, the louder she becomes.

Not demanding.
Not chaotic.

Just undeniably alive.

Try This Tonight

No mirror.
No phone.
No fixing.

Just ask yourself:
“What would feel good in my body right now?”

Stretch.
Move.
Rest.
Breathe.

Don’t make it productive.
Don’t turn it into a routine.

Just let your body lead.

And if you’re craving a space where this kind of embodied connection is welcomed and normalized…

🖤 Join us at the next Sheer Social – March 15th at 1pm
A space for women reconnecting with themselves beyond the noise.

You don’t have to explain.
Your body already knows.

You just need to show up as you are.

Or if you’re ready to experience this energy in a way that changes how you see yourself forever…

🔥 Book a boudoir session
Not to become someone new.
But to remember who you already are.

This is Your Permission Slip to Desires!

Week 6 — Dark Feminine Energy

Last week, we woke HER up
This week, we give HER permission

Not permission to burn it all down.
Permission to want, to feel, to receive.

This week is about the most forbidden thing for:
👉 Pleasure without earning it first.

Let’s Talk About the Guilt No One Names

Here’s something most women won’t say out loud:

They want more…
but they feel guilty for wanting it.

More desire.
More pleasure.
More attention.
More depth.
More sensation.

So they tell themselves a story:

“Once I get everything done.”
“Once I lose the weight.”
“Once life slows down.”
“Once everyone else is taken care of.”

As if desire is a reward you earn for good behavior.

Dark Feminine Energy Doesn’t Wait to Be Earned

This is where the dark feminine breaks the rules.

She doesn’t ask:

• Did I do enough today?

• Was I productive enough?

• Did I take care of everyone else first?

She asks:
“What do I want?”

And she lets that answer exist without explanation.

That’s why this energy feels uncomfortable at first.

Because most women were taught that wanting is selfish…
and pleasure is indulgent…
and desire should be quiet.

Why Desire Goes Dormant (Especially for Mothers & Wives)

Desire doesn’t disappear because you got older.

It disappears because it became conditional.

Conditional on:

• Being useful

• Being attractive in a specific way

• Being easy to live with

• Being “low maintenance”

Over time, your body learns:
Wanting feels risky.

So it shuts down.

Not to punish you.
To protect you.

The Dark Feminine Reclaims Pleasure Slowly

This isn’t about forcing yourself to feel sexy again.

It’s about letting yourself receive again.

Receiving:

• Rest without guilt

• Touch without expectation

• Attention without apology

• Desire without justification

The dark feminine awakens when you stop making pleasure prove its worth.

When you stop asking:
“Is this allowed?”

And start asking:
“Does this feel true?”

This Is Why So Many Women Feel Numb

Numbness isn’t the absence of desire.

It’s the result of denying it for too long.

When you constantly override what you want, your body eventually stops speaking loudly.

The dark feminine doesn’t demand.

She waits.

And when she finally gets your attention, it often shows up as:

• Disconnection

• Restlessness

• A quiet sadness you can’t explain

• A craving for depth you can’t name

That’s not a problem to fix.

That’s an invitation.

You’re Allowed to Want Without a Reason

This might be the most radical thing you read all week:

You don’t need to deserve desire.

You don’t need to justify pleasure.
You don’t need permission to feel alive.
You don’t need to explain why something lights you up.

The dark feminine doesn’t negotiate her worth.

She remembers it.

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Try This Tonight

Instead of rushing past this feeling, sit with it.

Ask yourself:
“What do I want… if I don’t have to earn it?”

Don’t judge the answer.
Don’t act on it yet.
Just let it exist.

And if you’re craving space to explore this part of yourself with women who are asking the same questions…

🖤 Join us at Sheer Social – February 15th at 1pm
A space for honest conversations, connection, and permission to want more.

You don’t need to perform.
You don’t need to explain.

You just need to show up as you are.

Or if you’re ready to experience this energy in a way that changes how you see yourself forever…

🔥 Book a boudoir session
Not to become someone new.
But to remember who you already are.

This Is the Year I Stopped Waiting to Feel Alive.

Week 5 — Dark Feminine Energy

Birthdays Hit Different Now

When I was younger, birthdays felt exciting.
Something to count up toward.

Now they feel… revealing.

They shine a light on what you’ve been postponing.
What you’ve been tolerating.
What you keep telling yourself you’ll get to “someday.”

And this year, I couldn’t ignore the feeling anymore.

Not sadness.
Not regret.

Just a quiet knowing:

I don’t want to keep waiting to feel alive.

Somewhere Along the Way, I Learned How to Be Needed

Like a lot of women, I learned how to be everything for everyone.

Reliable.
Strong.
Capable.
The one who holds it all together.

And for a long time, that felt like purpose.

Until it started to feel like I was disappearing inside my own life.

Not in a dramatic way.
In a subtle one.

The kind where you’re doing all the “right” things…
but something inside you feels muted.

Dark Feminine Energy Isn’t Loud. It’s Honest.

I used to think dark feminine energy was something you stepped into.

Something bold.
Something performative.
Something you became.

Now I know it’s something you stop suppressing.

It’s the moment you admit:

• I want more depth

• I miss feeling desirable

• I crave connection that isn’t surface level

• I don’t want to keep shrinking my wants to stay comfortable

Dark feminine energy is truth without apology.

The Moment I Realized She Was Still Here

This birthday didn’t come with fireworks.

It came with a question I couldn’t unask:

What if the version of me I miss… never left?

What if she was just waiting for me to stop being busy enough to hear her?

Waiting for me to stop explaining myself.
Waiting for me to stop prioritizing everyone else’s comfort.
Waiting for me to choose myself without guilt.

That realization changed everything.

This Isn’t About Reinventing Yourself

I’m not trying to become someone new this year.

I’m not chasing a glow up.
I’m not chasing a version of myself from ten years ago.

I’m reclaiming the woman I muted to survive.

The one who:

• Trusts her instincts

• Feels at home in her body

• Wants pleasure without justification

• Refuses to apologize for wanting to feel alive

That’s dark feminine energy.

And she doesn’t need permission.

If This Birthday Is Stirring Something in You Too

If you’re reading this and feeling that familiar ache…

That sense that time is moving faster than your joy…
That craving for depth, desire, and presence…

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
You’re not selfish.

You’re waking up.

And maybe 2026 isn’t about becoming better.

Maybe it’s about becoming honest.

I don’t know exactly what this year will bring.

But I do know this:

I’m done waiting for the “right time” to feel alive in my own skin.

And if you’re feeling that too…
I see you.

Or if you’re ready to experience this energy in a way that changes how you see yourself forever…

🔥 Book a boudoir session
Not to become someone new.
But to remember who you already are.

How to Shift Into Your Bold Era (Without Burning Out)

Week 4: Reclaiming HER Series

You’ve seen HER.
You’ve felt HER.
You’ve been reminded that you don’t have to be small in life.

Now comes the part women don’t talk about: stepping into boldness.

Not loud, not reckless. Not a “new personality.”
Just… fully claiming the woman you’ve been putting off.

And doing it without burning out.

Boldness Isn’t Chaos

Boldness isn’t shouting, overworking or doing it ALLLL at once.

It’s the small, deliberate choices that say:

• I matter.

• I will take up space.

• I won’t shrink myself to make others comfortable.

• I am worthy of desire, joy and attention.

It’s a shift that starts inside before it shows up outside.

Avoid the Burnout Trap

Many women jump from playing small to going “all in,” thinking boldness means more hustle, more effort, more stress.

But that’s not sustainable!!!

True boldness feels like:

• Prioritizing yourself without guilt

• Setting boundaries with ease

• Saying no to what doesn’t align

• Saying yes to what excites you

• Celebrating progress, not perfection

It’s fierce, grounded and unapologetically yours.

How to Start Your Bold Era

1. Notice where you’ve been dimming yourself.
   Awareness is the first step. You’ve done this in weeks 2 & 3… now it’s time to lean in.

2. Pick one small, bold action each day.
   Speak your truth. Wear the outfit that excites you. Take a solo moment just for you.

3. Protect your energy.
   Boldness doesn’t require burning out. Boundaries aren’t optional, they’re essential.

4. Celebrate the wins.
   Even small ones. Every bold choice fuels the next.

Bold Isn’t a Moment… It’s a Habit

This week, ask yourself:

• Where can I be more visible?

• Where can I say yes to what excites me?

• Where can I honor my desires without apology?

Boldness isn’t a sprint. It’s a way of being.
And the more you practice, the easier it becomes.

This is your era. Your choices. Your spark.
You’ve been reclaiming HER for four weeks… now step fully into it.

✨ Step Into Your Bold Era✨

Boldness doesn’t mean doing everything. It means choosing yourself intentionally, celebrating your wins and honoring your energy.

If you want to keep receiving weekly reminders, reflections, and invitations to reclaim HER, I send one honest message each week for women ready to step into their bold era.

Your Spark Isn’t Gone....She’s Just Bored

Week 3: Reclaiming HER Series

Remember when life used to excite you?

When a Friday night wasn’t just relief from the week, but an opportunity to actually feel alive?!?!

Somewhere along the way, that spark didn’t disappear.
It didn’t run off.
It just… got bored.

Bored of routines.
Bored of everyone else’s expectations.
Bored of waiting for permission to feel desire, joy or thrill.

And here’s the kicker: she’s been quietly tapping her foot while you’ve been pretending life is still interesting.

Why We Think Our Spark Is Gone

We tell ourselves:

• “I’ve changed too much.”

• “I don’t have time for that anymore.”

• “I’ve got responsibilities; this isn’t me.”

We confuse fatigue and repetition for loss.
We confuse compromise for disappearance.

But the truth is, your spark isn’t gone.
She’s just bored with playing the same version of life over and over.

How She’s Trying to Get Your Attention

You feel it in small ways:

• Restlessness during routines that used to be comforting

• Your mind wandering during conversations or tasks

• A sudden longing for something that makes you feel electric

She’s not angry. She’s not missing.
She’s teasing you, saying:
“Wake up. Remember me. Remember what I’m capable of.”

Inviting Her Back

This week, instead of trying to reignite your spark with a “plan” or a “goal,” try inviting her back:

• Move your body in a way that feels sensual or joyful

• Say something bold…even if it’s small

• Pick up a book, podcast or activity that excites you

• Take five minutes to notice what makes your pulse quicken

You don’t have to overhaul your life.
You just have to let her play again.

The Truth About Your Spark

It’s not lost.
It’s been waiting, bored, for you to remember that life can still thrill you.

So this week, pay attention to the small sparks.
Notice what lights up your skin.
Notice what makes your heart rate skip.

She’s there.
She’s just bored.
And she’s ready to play.

✨

If you want weekly notes to keep walking through this journey together, I send one honest message each week for women. Each month will have a new topic to focus on. January is about finding yourself again.

The Moment You Realize You’ve Been Playing Small

Week 2: Reclaiming HER Series

There’s a moment most women don’t talk about.

It’s not dramatic.
It doesn’t come with a breakdown or a breakthrough playlist.

It usually shows up quietly.
In the middle of a normal day.

And suddenly you realize something that’s hard to unsee: I’ve been playing small.

Not because you lack confidence.
Not because you aren’t capable.
Not because life beat you down.

But because somewhere along the way, playing small felt safer than wanting more.

Playing Small Doesn’t Look the Way You Think

Playing small isn’t hiding in the corner.

It looks like:

• Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not

• Keeping opinions to yourself to avoid rocking the boat

• Dressing for comfort instead of desire

• Talking yourself out of things you want

• Shrinking dreams so they feel more “responsible”

It looks like being wildly competent while quietly unfulfilled.

And the hardest part?
You get praised for it.

You’re dependable. Low-maintenance. Easygoing. Strong.

So you convince yourself this is just adulthood.

When Did You Decide This Was Enough?

Most women don’t choose to play small.
They adapt.

After kids.
After heartbreak.
After exhaustion.
After being needed by everyone else.

You learn to mute yourself just enough to survive.
And then one day, survival starts to feel like suffocation.

That’s when the restlessness creeps in.

You can’t name it.
You just know something feels off.

That’s not dissatisfaction.
That’s your truth tapping you on the shoulder.

Playing Small Isn’t Humility. It’s Habit.

Somewhere, we were taught that wanting more made us ungrateful.

So we minimized ourselves to stay likable.
Palatable.
Acceptable.

But here’s the thing no one says out loud:

You can be grateful and crave more.
You can love your life and want to expand it.
You can be a good mom, partner, friend and want to feel alive again.

Playing small doesn’t protect you.
It slowly disconnects you from yourself.

The Moment Everything Shifts

Reclaiming HER doesn’t start with a plan.

It starts with awareness.

The moment you realize:

• You’ve been dimming your desires

• You’ve been choosing safety over alignment

• You’ve been living a version of yourself that’s… tolerable

That moment changes everything!

Because once you see where you’ve been playing small, you can’t unknow it.

And you don’t have to blow up your life to stop.

You just have to stop abandoning yourself in quiet ways.

This Week, Notice Where You’re Holding Back

Not to fix it.
Not to judge it.

Just notice.

Where do you silence yourself?
Where do you settle?
Where do you tell yourself, “This is just how it is now”?

That awareness is power.

And it’s how reclaiming HER deepens ✨

If this made you uncomfortable, that’s not a problem.

That’s awareness waking up.

This week, don’t change anything.
Just notice where you’ve been playing small.

And if you want to keep walking through this January together, I send one honest note each week for women reclaiming HER.

Why You Don’t Need a New Year, You Need To Unleash Yourself

Week 1: Reclaiming HER Series

Every January, women everywhere are told the same tired story.

New year. New goals. New routines. New rules.
Fix this. Improve that. Be better. Try harder.

But what if the problem isn’t that you need a new year?

What if the truth is quieter…and heavier?

What if you don’t need to reinvent yourself at all?
What if you just need to unleash the woman you’ve been keeping on pause?

If you’re a middle-age woman, like myself, chances are you didn’t lose yourself overnight. You tucked her away piece by piece.

After the kids.
After the marriage shifted.
After the career took over.
After the body changed.
After life demanded more than you thought you had to give.

And somewhere along the way, she learned to wait.

The Woman You Keep Putting Off

You know exactly who I’m talking about.

She’s the version of you who:

• Used to feel magnetic without trying

• Had opinions and said them out loud

• Took up space without apologizing

• Felt connected to her body instead of at war with it

• Dreamed bigger than what was “realistic”

She didn’t disappear.
She didn’t fail.
She didn’t get lost.

She’s been patient.

Waiting for the kids to be older.
Waiting for the chaos to settle.
Waiting for permission you were never going to be given.

And every January, you tell yourself, “This is the year.”
But then life taps you on the shoulder and says, “Not yet.”

So you compromise again.

Why “New Year, New You” Never Works

Here’s the thing no one tells women in midlife.

You don’t need more discipline.
You don’t need another planner.
You don’t need a stricter routine or a prettier vision board.

You are exhausted because you are over-functioning as everyone else’s everything while under-serving yourself.

A “new year” doesn’t fix that.

What fixes that is deciding you are no longer available to abandon yourself.

Reclaiming HER isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about remembering who you were before you learned to be smaller.

This Is the Year You Stop Waiting

Stepping into the version of yourself you’ve been putting off doesn’t require a dramatic life overhaul.

It starts with quieter, braver choices.

• Choosing yourself even when it feels uncomfortable

• Letting desire matter again

• Listening to the pull instead of silencing it

• Allowing confidence to feel natural, not earned

• Giving your body kindness instead of conditions

This isn’t about blowing up your life.
It’s about coming home to yourself.

And yes, it will feel unfamiliar at first.
Because you’ve been living in “responsible mode” for a long time.

But unfamiliar doesn’t mean wrong.

Reclaiming HER Starts Now

This January isn’t about fixing what’s broken.

Because you aren’t broken.

It’s about unlocking the door you’ve kept closed for years.
It’s about letting yourself want more.
Feel more.
Be more.

Not louder.
Not busier.
Not perfect.

Just more you.

This is Week One of reclaiming HER.
And it begins the moment you stop waiting for the right time…
and decide you are worth showing up for now ✨

You’re Not the Only One. This post exists because so many women quietly tell me the same thing: “I feel like I lost myself.” If that’s you, you’re not broken and you’re not alone.