Bringing Dark Feminine Energy Into Your Actual Life

Week 8 — Dark Feminine Energy

If you’ve been reading along this month, you might be realizing something important:

Dark feminine energy isn’t a concept.
It’s a way of moving, choosing and relating to yourself.

And it doesn’t show up all at once.

It returns in layers.

Week 5: Awareness

We started noticing….

Noticing how desire didn’t disappear.
It got delayed.
Postponed.
Put on hold until everything else was handled.

You learned to be responsible, dependable and needed.
And in the process, wanting became something you negotiated with instead of listened to.

This week wasn’t about action. It was about honesty.

Dark feminine energy begins when you stop overriding yourself.

Awareness is the doorway.

Week 6: Permission

Then came the shift from noticing to allowing.

You remembered that pleasure, curiosity, sensuality and rest are not rewards for productivity.
They’re part of being alive.

Dark feminine energy doesn’t need justification.
She responds to sensation, not obligation.

This is where embodiment began.

You didn’t add more.
You softened how you moved through what’s already there.

Week 7: Safety

Then we named the guard.

How being “put together” can double as protection.
How competence can keep you safe but distant.
How many women aren’t numb… they’re braced.

Dark feminine energy doesn’t force her way back in.
She returns when she feels welcomed.

This week was about creating safety for feeling again.

Feeling comes back when it’s no longer rushed or judged.

Week 8: Integration

This is where it all comes together.

Dark feminine energy lives in:

• The way you take up space

• The way you inhabit your body

• The way you let yourself be witnessed

It’s not about being overtly sexy.
It’s about being present, felt and connected to yourself.

And here’s where I want to be very clear.

For many women, this energy doesn’t fully integrate through thinking alone.

It integrates through experience.

Through being guided.
Through being seen.
Through being in your body instead of analyzing it.

That’s exactly why a boudoir session fits into this work so naturally.

Not as a photoshoot.
But as a physical practice of everything we’ve talked about all of February.

Slowing down.
Letting yourself receive.
Moving with intention.
Being witnessed without performing.

A session becomes a container where:

• Desire doesn’t have to be earned

• Your body isn’t rushed or judged

• You practice presence, softness and confidence in real time

Not for the camera.

For you.

Your next step

If this series resonated, don’t let it stay theoretical.

You don’t need to overhaul your life.
You don’t need to “be ready.”

You just need a space where this version of you is allowed to exist fully.

If that space feels like it could be here, I’d love to hold it for you.

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You don’t need to decide.
You don’t need to be ready.
You don’t need to know what you want yet.

Most women who end up doing a session didn’t start with certainty.
They started with curiosity… and a little nervous energy.

That’s normal.

If you’re feeling pulled toward this but also hesitant, that doesn’t mean no.
It usually means something important wants to be talked through.

So I made this easy.

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No pressure.
No awkward explaining.
No commitment hiding on the other side.

Just a conversation between two women.

Sometimes dark feminine energy returns the moment you allow yourself to be heard.

And if this month taught you anything, it’s that you don’t have to do this alone.

You won’t be bothering me. And you won’t be talked into anything.

Your Body Knows Before You Do

Week 7 — Dark Feminine Energy

Week 5, we woke HER up
Last week, we gave HER permission
This week, we know our body remembers before our mind does

Here we go. 🖤

Your Body Has Been Paying Attention This Whole Time

While you were busy being responsible…
Your body was keeping score.

It noticed:

• What drained you

• What softened you

• What made you feel alive

• What shut you down

Even when you ignored the signals.
Even when you pushed through.
Even when you told yourself it didn’t matter.

Your body didn’t stop speaking.

You just stopped listening.

This Is Where Dark Feminine Energy Actually Lives

Not in your thoughts.
Not in affirmations.
Not in motivation.

Dark feminine energy lives in sensation.

In the way your shoulders drop when you finally exhale.
In the way your hips sway when you’re not being watched.
In the way certain music makes you feel something you forgot you missed.

She doesn’t announce herself.

She moves.

Why So Many Women Feel Disconnected From Their Bodies

Most women were taught to treat their bodies like projects.

Fix it.
Manage it.
Improve it.
Push it harder.

Especially after motherhood, your body becomes something you use…
not something you inhabit.

So it makes sense that desire feels distant.

You can’t feel sensual in a body you’re constantly correcting.

Reconnection Isn’t About Loving Your Body

This might surprise you.

Reconnecting with your body isn’t about body positivity.
It’s about body presence.

It’s about noticing:

• When something feels like a yes

• When something feels like a no

• When you’re tense

• When you’re open

The dark feminine awakens when you stop asking,
“How do I look?”

And start asking,
“How does this feel?”

Your Body Speaks in Whispers, Not Words

This is why so many women miss the moment.

The signals are subtle:

• A craving for touch

• A desire to slow down

• A pull toward beauty, texture, warmth

• A restlessness that isn’t mental

Your body doesn’t shout.

She invites.

And when she’s been ignored for a long time, she waits patiently.

Until one day… you finally hear her.

This Is Where Sensuality Begins Again

Not in lingerie.
Not in mirrors.
Not in performance.

Sensuality begins the moment you let yourself feel inside your body again.

When you:

• Move without watching yourself

• Rest without guilt

• Touch your own skin with intention

• Let pleasure be quiet and personal

This is dark feminine energy in its most grounded form.

Not seductive for others.
Magnetic for yourself.

If This Is Stirring Something Physical, Not Logical

That’s the point.

Your body remembers what your mind forgot.

And the more you listen, the louder she becomes.

Not demanding.
Not chaotic.

Just undeniably alive.

Try This Tonight

No mirror.
No phone.
No fixing.

Just ask yourself:
“What would feel good in my body right now?”

Stretch.
Move.
Rest.
Breathe.

Don’t make it productive.
Don’t turn it into a routine.

Just let your body lead.

And if you’re craving a space where this kind of embodied connection is welcomed and normalized…

🖤 Join us at the next Sheer Social – March 15th at 1pm
A space for women reconnecting with themselves beyond the noise.

You don’t have to explain.
Your body already knows.

You just need to show up as you are.

Or if you’re ready to experience this energy in a way that changes how you see yourself forever…

🔥 Book a boudoir session
Not to become someone new.
But to remember who you already are.

This is Your Permission Slip to Desires!

Week 6 — Dark Feminine Energy

Last week, we woke HER up
This week, we give HER permission

Not permission to burn it all down.
Permission to want, to feel, to receive.

This week is about the most forbidden thing for:
👉 Pleasure without earning it first.

Let’s Talk About the Guilt No One Names

Here’s something most women won’t say out loud:

They want more…
but they feel guilty for wanting it.

More desire.
More pleasure.
More attention.
More depth.
More sensation.

So they tell themselves a story:

“Once I get everything done.”
“Once I lose the weight.”
“Once life slows down.”
“Once everyone else is taken care of.”

As if desire is a reward you earn for good behavior.

Dark Feminine Energy Doesn’t Wait to Be Earned

This is where the dark feminine breaks the rules.

She doesn’t ask:

• Did I do enough today?

• Was I productive enough?

• Did I take care of everyone else first?

She asks:
“What do I want?”

And she lets that answer exist without explanation.

That’s why this energy feels uncomfortable at first.

Because most women were taught that wanting is selfish…
and pleasure is indulgent…
and desire should be quiet.

Why Desire Goes Dormant (Especially for Mothers & Wives)

Desire doesn’t disappear because you got older.

It disappears because it became conditional.

Conditional on:

• Being useful

• Being attractive in a specific way

• Being easy to live with

• Being “low maintenance”

Over time, your body learns:
Wanting feels risky.

So it shuts down.

Not to punish you.
To protect you.

The Dark Feminine Reclaims Pleasure Slowly

This isn’t about forcing yourself to feel sexy again.

It’s about letting yourself receive again.

Receiving:

• Rest without guilt

• Touch without expectation

• Attention without apology

• Desire without justification

The dark feminine awakens when you stop making pleasure prove its worth.

When you stop asking:
“Is this allowed?”

And start asking:
“Does this feel true?”

This Is Why So Many Women Feel Numb

Numbness isn’t the absence of desire.

It’s the result of denying it for too long.

When you constantly override what you want, your body eventually stops speaking loudly.

The dark feminine doesn’t demand.

She waits.

And when she finally gets your attention, it often shows up as:

• Disconnection

• Restlessness

• A quiet sadness you can’t explain

• A craving for depth you can’t name

That’s not a problem to fix.

That’s an invitation.

You’re Allowed to Want Without a Reason

This might be the most radical thing you read all week:

You don’t need to deserve desire.

You don’t need to justify pleasure.
You don’t need permission to feel alive.
You don’t need to explain why something lights you up.

The dark feminine doesn’t negotiate her worth.

She remembers it.

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Try This Tonight

Instead of rushing past this feeling, sit with it.

Ask yourself:
“What do I want… if I don’t have to earn it?”

Don’t judge the answer.
Don’t act on it yet.
Just let it exist.

And if you’re craving space to explore this part of yourself with women who are asking the same questions…

🖤 Join us at Sheer Social – February 15th at 1pm
A space for honest conversations, connection, and permission to want more.

You don’t need to perform.
You don’t need to explain.

You just need to show up as you are.

Or if you’re ready to experience this energy in a way that changes how you see yourself forever…

🔥 Book a boudoir session
Not to become someone new.
But to remember who you already are.

The Moment You Realize You’ve Been Playing Small

Week 2: Reclaiming HER Series

There’s a moment most women don’t talk about.

It’s not dramatic.
It doesn’t come with a breakdown or a breakthrough playlist.

It usually shows up quietly.
In the middle of a normal day.

And suddenly you realize something that’s hard to unsee: I’ve been playing small.

Not because you lack confidence.
Not because you aren’t capable.
Not because life beat you down.

But because somewhere along the way, playing small felt safer than wanting more.

Playing Small Doesn’t Look the Way You Think

Playing small isn’t hiding in the corner.

It looks like:

• Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not

• Keeping opinions to yourself to avoid rocking the boat

• Dressing for comfort instead of desire

• Talking yourself out of things you want

• Shrinking dreams so they feel more “responsible”

It looks like being wildly competent while quietly unfulfilled.

And the hardest part?
You get praised for it.

You’re dependable. Low-maintenance. Easygoing. Strong.

So you convince yourself this is just adulthood.

When Did You Decide This Was Enough?

Most women don’t choose to play small.
They adapt.

After kids.
After heartbreak.
After exhaustion.
After being needed by everyone else.

You learn to mute yourself just enough to survive.
And then one day, survival starts to feel like suffocation.

That’s when the restlessness creeps in.

You can’t name it.
You just know something feels off.

That’s not dissatisfaction.
That’s your truth tapping you on the shoulder.

Playing Small Isn’t Humility. It’s Habit.

Somewhere, we were taught that wanting more made us ungrateful.

So we minimized ourselves to stay likable.
Palatable.
Acceptable.

But here’s the thing no one says out loud:

You can be grateful and crave more.
You can love your life and want to expand it.
You can be a good mom, partner, friend and want to feel alive again.

Playing small doesn’t protect you.
It slowly disconnects you from yourself.

The Moment Everything Shifts

Reclaiming HER doesn’t start with a plan.

It starts with awareness.

The moment you realize:

• You’ve been dimming your desires

• You’ve been choosing safety over alignment

• You’ve been living a version of yourself that’s… tolerable

That moment changes everything!

Because once you see where you’ve been playing small, you can’t unknow it.

And you don’t have to blow up your life to stop.

You just have to stop abandoning yourself in quiet ways.

This Week, Notice Where You’re Holding Back

Not to fix it.
Not to judge it.

Just notice.

Where do you silence yourself?
Where do you settle?
Where do you tell yourself, “This is just how it is now”?

That awareness is power.

And it’s how reclaiming HER deepens ✨

If this made you uncomfortable, that’s not a problem.

That’s awareness waking up.

This week, don’t change anything.
Just notice where you’ve been playing small.

And if you want to keep walking through this January together, I send one honest note each week for women reclaiming HER.