Your Spark Isn’t Gone....She’s Just Bored

Week 3: Reclaiming HER Series

Remember when life used to excite you?

When a Friday night wasn’t just relief from the week, but an opportunity to actually feel alive?!?!

Somewhere along the way, that spark didn’t disappear.
It didn’t run off.
It just… got bored.

Bored of routines.
Bored of everyone else’s expectations.
Bored of waiting for permission to feel desire, joy or thrill.

And here’s the kicker: she’s been quietly tapping her foot while you’ve been pretending life is still interesting.

Why We Think Our Spark Is Gone

We tell ourselves:

• “I’ve changed too much.”

• “I don’t have time for that anymore.”

• “I’ve got responsibilities; this isn’t me.”

We confuse fatigue and repetition for loss.
We confuse compromise for disappearance.

But the truth is, your spark isn’t gone.
She’s just bored with playing the same version of life over and over.

How She’s Trying to Get Your Attention

You feel it in small ways:

• Restlessness during routines that used to be comforting

• Your mind wandering during conversations or tasks

• A sudden longing for something that makes you feel electric

She’s not angry. She’s not missing.
She’s teasing you, saying:
“Wake up. Remember me. Remember what I’m capable of.”

Inviting Her Back

This week, instead of trying to reignite your spark with a “plan” or a “goal,” try inviting her back:

• Move your body in a way that feels sensual or joyful

• Say something bold…even if it’s small

• Pick up a book, podcast or activity that excites you

• Take five minutes to notice what makes your pulse quicken

You don’t have to overhaul your life.
You just have to let her play again.

The Truth About Your Spark

It’s not lost.
It’s been waiting, bored, for you to remember that life can still thrill you.

So this week, pay attention to the small sparks.
Notice what lights up your skin.
Notice what makes your heart rate skip.

She’s there.
She’s just bored.
And she’s ready to play.

✨

If you want weekly notes to keep walking through this journey together, I send one honest message each week for women. Each month will have a new topic to focus on. January is about finding yourself again.

Why You Don’t Need a New Year, You Need To Unleash Yourself

Week 1: Reclaiming HER Series

Every January, women everywhere are told the same tired story.

New year. New goals. New routines. New rules.
Fix this. Improve that. Be better. Try harder.

But what if the problem isn’t that you need a new year?

What if the truth is quieter…and heavier?

What if you don’t need to reinvent yourself at all?
What if you just need to unleash the woman you’ve been keeping on pause?

If you’re a middle-age woman, like myself, chances are you didn’t lose yourself overnight. You tucked her away piece by piece.

After the kids.
After the marriage shifted.
After the career took over.
After the body changed.
After life demanded more than you thought you had to give.

And somewhere along the way, she learned to wait.

The Woman You Keep Putting Off

You know exactly who I’m talking about.

She’s the version of you who:

• Used to feel magnetic without trying

• Had opinions and said them out loud

• Took up space without apologizing

• Felt connected to her body instead of at war with it

• Dreamed bigger than what was “realistic”

She didn’t disappear.
She didn’t fail.
She didn’t get lost.

She’s been patient.

Waiting for the kids to be older.
Waiting for the chaos to settle.
Waiting for permission you were never going to be given.

And every January, you tell yourself, “This is the year.”
But then life taps you on the shoulder and says, “Not yet.”

So you compromise again.

Why “New Year, New You” Never Works

Here’s the thing no one tells women in midlife.

You don’t need more discipline.
You don’t need another planner.
You don’t need a stricter routine or a prettier vision board.

You are exhausted because you are over-functioning as everyone else’s everything while under-serving yourself.

A “new year” doesn’t fix that.

What fixes that is deciding you are no longer available to abandon yourself.

Reclaiming HER isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about remembering who you were before you learned to be smaller.

This Is the Year You Stop Waiting

Stepping into the version of yourself you’ve been putting off doesn’t require a dramatic life overhaul.

It starts with quieter, braver choices.

• Choosing yourself even when it feels uncomfortable

• Letting desire matter again

• Listening to the pull instead of silencing it

• Allowing confidence to feel natural, not earned

• Giving your body kindness instead of conditions

This isn’t about blowing up your life.
It’s about coming home to yourself.

And yes, it will feel unfamiliar at first.
Because you’ve been living in “responsible mode” for a long time.

But unfamiliar doesn’t mean wrong.

Reclaiming HER Starts Now

This January isn’t about fixing what’s broken.

Because you aren’t broken.

It’s about unlocking the door you’ve kept closed for years.
It’s about letting yourself want more.
Feel more.
Be more.

Not louder.
Not busier.
Not perfect.

Just more you.

This is Week One of reclaiming HER.
And it begins the moment you stop waiting for the right time…
and decide you are worth showing up for now ✨

You’re Not the Only One. This post exists because so many women quietly tell me the same thing: “I feel like I lost myself.” If that’s you, you’re not broken and you’re not alone.